Death

Death is a powerful event. More for the people left behind than for the person who died. There have been many movies made about people who died but were able to somehow view their family and friends. Some of the more popular movies depict a character being able to listen to his/her own eulogy and glow in the warmth of some of the best things ever said about them.

In reality it seems that death reorders the world and more precisely a family. Depending on where you reside in the family hierarchy changes the resultant hole. Some what like a building whose bricks are stacked giving it stability. A brick even on the bottom or corner when removed creates cracks and instability.

I wonder if we knew how are departure would effect the people left behind, both positively or negatively...would we have made different choices. I think the real message is there. Rather than live your life for others...you should live your life by your own code. That way it matters not what they say at the eulogy but what is said to you while you are alive.