I have decided today to explore the concept of "should have." Yesterday when I was running around getting some errands done I heard the radio guest say that a sentence which begins with "I should have..." is a waste of emotional energy. He went on to say as soon as you hear, "should have" come out of your mouths, stop yourself.
Can one live life with a lot of should haves...is it conceivable to be human an not have a lot of should haves?
Should haves are regrets, guilt and judgement. I do know that in raising children I have bounced back and forth with the should haves. But, I also can remember telling my kids that failure is not a failure but a piece of information that is important is moving forward. I think "should haves" means you are looking back way too much.
You cannot have joy without understanding saddness.
You cannot revel in success without knowing failure.
I guess in someways the radio talk host was correct...should haves...they are the haves that are missing and thus are not worth dwelling on but turning into haves.
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