The Shower started as an alternative to the dowry. In the 1890's, friends and family put small gifts in parasols that were opened over the bride's head. Years ago, as the story goes, there lived a young Dutch girl who loved a young Dutch miller. The miller was so generous to the poor that he could never save a fortune for himself. Because the young man was not rich, the maiden's father disapproved of the match and refused to give her a dowry. But the village folks, and the young people, had desired their marriage. To make up the girl's dowry, each villager brought some treasured possession of his own until a chest had been filled with all household goods that a bride should bring to her new home. With these contributions, they 'showered' the maiden until even her father was won over. From that day to this, it has been the custom for the bride's friends and family to present her with gifts for her new life. Don't despair over a bad turn in the weather. An old Roman proverb states, "Rain falls in the lap of the happy bride."
I marvel at the sistas...they are so beautiful, so different and yet so close. Life can be weathered with a sis at your side. The best part of showers is the people watching...it is the beginning of families and friends coming together to celebate the love of a couple and at the same time put aside all their own histories. When people rise to this level of love...it is amazing.
Our hearts have this incredible capacity to love and share. It is wonderful getting to know people and hear their story...for each person's story tells so much about who they are, where they are heading and what space they live their life.
Sure, families are made up of a group of people who through a common gene pool ended up with each other. Sometimes our friends are as important as family.
But, in every family exisit a person who is the lightening rod for the family. They are the family soul, they are the family joy, they are the one who brings us all together because they hold our hearts...Sarah is that person.
Sarah's bridal shower was so much more than just a party. It was an event where women could come together, putting their pasts behind them and rejoice for one woman's joy.
My son is blessed to have met this funny, heart warming, caring, beautiful woman.
Yesterday I learned so much about the power of women from the efficient decision making, to the connections that are shared to create a dream wedding.
The only regret I have is that Becky is a bridemaid...cause really...she could have catered the entire wedding...Martha Stewart...eat your heart out!
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What an wonderful evening! I was honored to witness the love and amazing bonds between Sarah and her family. I enjoyed a room full of laughter, and hugs, and strong, sensitive, loving women. I am equally honored to say I'm part of Anna's family. Sarah hit the jack-pot in mother-in-laws!
Plus....I rocked at the games! What a great night!
Lil'Red you could have been one of the Kim sisters...competition is their middle name! I loved seeing the powerful side of your nature...poor Mikey...he has no clue the depth of your strength.
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